I have dealt with confidence issues most of my life. This problem started when I was an awkward, shy, frizzy haired and red cheeked teenager. I really wanted to be liked by everyone but didn’t see myself as worthy of their approval. I’m sure the same could be said about many of you reading this (maybe not the red cheeks part…I mean they were RED cheeks)! But sadly, a lot of us carry this lack of confidence (that is so regular in the teenage years) into adulthood. This is such a serious issue because it affects us as mothers, workers, friends, and even Christians. It can keep us from really putting a foot forward in the work of the church. I used to try to justify this lack of self-confidence as me “being humble”. But now I realize that being arrogant and having confidence are two completely different things. The Bible gives us many reasons why we should and can be confident people!
I can be CONFIDENT that:
God made me who I am!
“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5). “For You formed my inward parts; You knitted me together in my mother’s womb” (Psalm 139:13). I know you hear it over and over again but honestly, nothing gives me more confidence than knowing that God made ME. He wanted ME. He thought that I was important enough to knit together and place on this earth. What a humbling and exciting thought! God doesn’t make worthless things, therefor I am worth something.
As a Christian, I can and should do wonderful things!
“We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us” (Romans 8:37). “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might” (Ecclesiastes 9:10). I think sometimes we set the bar too low for ourselves. I know I do. We need to remind ourselves of all the wonderful things we can do if we get past our lack of confidence and actually try hard! God put us here for a reason, He expects us to work! If we lack the confidence to do great things for the Lord, who will? We need to find that confidence to get our job done and wonderful things can happen.
I am not perfect, and that is ok!
If I counted the times I have failed in some task in my life it would just be sad. Boy am I thankful that God knows we are humans and that we aren’t always perfect! We will fail, we will make mistakes, we will say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Because of this we will feel small and helpless on occasion. But God sees us and knows our hearts. He doesn’t expect us to be perfect, He does expects us to try our hardest and move towards perfection with all our might. “Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me His own” (Philippians 3:12).
I can make it to heaven!
“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:37-39). “Be faithful unto death, and I will give you the crown of life” (Revelation 2:10). It is sad to see so many people uncertain about their destination after this life. If we are faithful to Him, He promises we will live with Him! How exciting and how much hope this can bring our lives! This is something we can and should feel confident in if we are living for Him.
Being confident in certain aspects of our lives does not make us prideful or arrogant. Being confident in our God-given talents, knowledge that God made us and loves us, that we can do great things for Him, will not only make us feel better about ourselves, but will also make us better Christians. Jesus would not have said “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:31) if it was wrong to love “yourself”. Let’s not allow the lack of confidence that we felt during petty and childish times in our lives (ahem, frizzy hair and red cheeks!) to keep us from being the confident and hard-working people that God made us to be. Always remember that you can do great things through Him!