Have you ever read a blog or some article that really encouraged you? I mean it was like that person could see in your head and wrote the words like they were flowing through your heart. Then you find that woman on Facebook you see that she is “only” 16 years old. What?! Where is the wisdom coming from? Or you read funny, uplifting posts that really hit how you are feeling about what is going on in the world today and discover that the woman that wrote them is in her 80’s. Wow! I know, you’re thinking, “She doesn’t sound like an old lady at all!” Well, it’s because age doesn’t matter. It’s just a number given to show how long we have existed. We have to quit thinking that the “age” of someone is who they are. For instance, I’m 55, but in my mind I’m only about 25. That’s an average. Sometimes I’m 6 and other times I’m 80, depending on what circumstance I’m in. We live in a world that breaks us up into “peer groups” based on our age or circumstance. And I get that. There is something about going through the same situations that tie people together. But…..what a blessing we receive when we open ourselves up to other age groups. #agedoesntmatter
We know that God wants the older women to teach the younger women. (Titus 2:3-5) But we also know that we are told to be like little children. (Mark 10:13-16) So for us to be achieving these areas of “learning” that God has put before us, we MUST spend time with other age groups. For some of us, that’s easy. I get excited about being with other women that are striving to walk in the light, no matter their age. #agedoesntmatter
It may require us to open up our minds a bit. We may need to change the way that we look at each other. Just because a woman is older doesn’t mean that she has her life all together. In fact, it’s really not fair to expect her too. You don’t know her background and even if you do, you don’t know how her life circumstances have affected her heart. Or….just because a woman is young doesn’t mean that she is immature and not trying to grow. We must all be patient with one another and realize that we all see life from different viewpoints, not just different ages, but different backgrounds and different personalities. We are all on this journey of life and every day brings a new adventure to go through. We must realize that we will all handle things differently and be there for each other, no matter our ages. #agedoesntmatter
Different women, on different journeys will sometimes go through the same kinds of circumstances. We must be willing to open up to each other and share the road that we are on or have been down. (2 Cor. 1:3-4) There is ALWAYS someone that has “been there, done that”, and it might just be someone younger than you. I will tell you that sometimes, as the older woman, it is hard to just walk up to a younger woman and start babbling about where you have been. Sometimes we think that other women don’t want to hear from us. We need to be careful of projecting that attitude. That “what do you know about it?” kind of thinking. That “you’re just old and nosy”. Some women don’t know the best way to reach out to others. We must be patient with each other and be open. I find that when I open myself up to others that I am truly blessed. When I start asking them questions about their lives, trying to reach into their life and show them that I care, that’s when I start connecting. And we must connect with each other to show that we truly love each other. We just have to be willing to touch the lives of others, to really get to know each other and join together as the family of God. #agedoesntmatter
*Be an encourager!
I have been encouraged by older women in my life in times where I just wasn’t sure what I was doing or what my purpose was. They lifted me up, both literally and in prayer. They let me see that I could get through the phase of life I was in. They helped me laugh through my tears. But I have also been encouraged by younger women. Children that are open and honest with me. (Ms. Tami, you have pretty eyes, but your breath is stinky.) Children that see life with wonder. They never cease to be amazed by God’s creation. Young women that make me feel like I am fun to be with and consider me to be one of their friends. Reach out and encourage those around you! #agedoesntmatter
*Be a listener!
(Prov. 10:19, 15:23, 28, 18:2) Sometimes we just need someone to listen to us. Some women have no one to talk to. It may be an older woman that lives alone or it may be a young woman that just doesn’t feel like she can talk to her parents right now. #agedoesntmatter
*Pray for each other!
Don’t just say it, stop and do it! Pray together wherever you are. I am surprised at how many women are truly touched when I say, “Can we pray about that right now?” Lift it up to the Lord with them! God cares for them. (1 Peter 5:7) #agedoesntmatter
Nobody wants to talk to or hang with a grump. I’m not naïve, I know that life can be hard, but we MUST be counting our blessings. If I am always frowning or complaining other women will not be turning to me for ANYTHING. We want to offer hope to those around us and it starts with a smile. Be pleasant. People are hurting and they need someone positive in their lives. Let it be you! #agedoesntmatter
Grow in God’s word daily. Find others of ANY age group to grow with. Find a woman from another age group to share a Bible study with you. Maybe you don’t even get together to study but you share each week by phone call or text message some wonderful treasure you pulled out of God’s word. Get together with other females and “share”, not just a lecture class, but share what is going on in each other’s lives. #agedoesntmatter
So if you tend to be one of those females who just hang with people your own age, you might want to rethink that. You are missing out on so many blessings! The blessing of having all night giggling sleepovers. (And I did that at a Ladies Retreat just a few years ago.) The blessing of seeing life through the eyes of a child. The blessing of having someone that has truly gone through what you are going through and came out on top. The blessing of having someone share with you the mistakes that she has made so that you are spared those same mistakes. Open up, because #agedoesntmatter!!!