Recently at work, a guy that was just hired kept cursing, and I mean it was every other word he said. I have made it clear to everyone I work with that I do not appreciate that kind of language, at least not while I’m around, but being new he didn’t know that I felt that way. When I got a chance after the rush had gone through I asked him to please not say those kinds of things around me. He looked at me like I was crazy or from a different planet and asked me, “Seriously? What’s the big deal about it anyway?” That question shocked me and really made me think. Nowhere in the Bible does it give us a list of “curse words” that we can or can’t say, so what makes them different than others and considered so horrible within the church? I concluded from many hours of personal and group studying that nothing is different about them.
A common misconception perceived in the church is that curse words are so much worse than, say, gossip. I have been reading a book called GIFTS (Girls in Fellowship and Team Study) by Hannah Colley and she put this subject into a great and realistic perspective that makes more sense. She referencesPhilippians 4:8 where Paul says “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” Of course cursing is not any of these things. By no means in this article am I approving cursing at all, but, a lot of times some other things (gossip, unkindness, lying) fall under our Christian radar that we have to constantly watch out for.
Ephesians 4:32 Paul says, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Talking bad about someone because they did something you didn’t like directly contradicts this verse. I believe that words are the deadliest weapons people can use. They tear people apart and hurt relationships like nothing else can. James 1:26 says that if a man can’t bridle his tongue, his whole religion is worthless. That is a pretty disturbing thought and scares me to think that if I fail at that, I fail at it all. You can be the most generous, prayerful, “go to church every Sunday/Wednesday” type of person but if you don’t show love and God’s spirit through your words, it’s all for waste. This is obviously very important but so often over-looked in today’s society and time. The use of euphemisms and the attitude of “they did this to me so I have the right to talk bad about them” are still so wrong. God makes it clear that vengeance will be his to serve on judgment day. We have to leave it all up to him.
In Colley’s book, it gives a list of projects and challenges for you to take, I have personally taken this challenge and I encourage you to do so as well: Find ten Bible passages that instruct us about purity in thoughts and speech and write them on index cards and post them in your room. This is so when you are going throughout your day you can see and be reminded of what God expects from us as Christians in not only actions, but your speech as well. Let us always work toward making our lives “worthy of praise” in every word we say.