It’s so easy to fall into. You go to school, mosey from class to class, check the clock thirty times a day counting down the minutes. You’re sitting in class one day, joking with one of your guy friends when you notice he has the most incredible smile and wonder how you hadn’t realized it before. From then on, whenever you see him you do whatever you can to make him smile, to feel like it’s reserved just for you. You start getting a strange knot in the pit of your stomach whenever you talk to him. After what seems like years of anticipation, you start dating. You spend a few happy months together, the knot eventually disappears, and, unless you’re in the vast minority of teenagers, you break up. You might cry, eat a roll of cookie dough, and then move on with life with a new mindset that you are single, powerful, and fierce. Soon enough, another smile will catch your eye and off you’ll go again.
Call me crazy, but doesn’t that seem like a huge waste of time? Years of your life spent plotting, flirting, giggling, falling, breaking up, crying and starting over just so we can have those moments of giddy excitement that come with every new relationship.
Is there anything wrong with finding love? Not at all. The relationship between a Christian husband and wife is one of the greatest blessings God has given us to enjoy in this life. What is wrong is spending more time looking for love than reading our Bibles. It is a problem when we spend more time caring about how much some boy might like us instead of telling others how much our Creator loves them.
We all should know there is no love story on Earth, from Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth to Edward and Bella to Shrek and Fiona, that comes close in comparison of the love story God has written for us. Do we recognize it? Do we realize how loved and valuable we are? Do we understand how beautiful and perfect we are in His eyes? He would, and did, give absolutely everything in hope that we might return that love and give our everything back to Him.
So many girls seem to look back in life and not remember anything about their teenage years except for the relationships they were in. What if things were switched and the only thing you could remember was your relationship with Christ and the time you spent showing your love for Him?
How do we do that? John 14:15 says, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” Do that. That doesn’t mean you have to limit yourself to a quiet, boring life at home by yourself. One of the greatest commands God has given us is to share His gospel to “the whole creation”. (Mark 16:15) Have Bible studies with people. Encourage your Christian friends. Go on mission trips all over the world. Organize a drive to get clothes or toys for an orphanage. There are so many things you can do.
You have your entire life to get yourself a good man. Spend your time making yourself someone worth getting. More important than that, spend your time developing the one relationship that will outlast this life and determine the next.